The new grad postings for my healthcare organization are up. Yes, it's that time of year when the new grads finish up their residency and start jockeying for the spots. No guarantees...though of course, if you're aiming for a particular spot, it helps if you have an "in" somewhere in that department. Then the department manager has a name to ask for when they submit the posting to HR.
We have a new grad coming our way next month. Their "in" was that they were a per-diem CNA/tech for us. And now they're a nurse for us.
We're actually doing pretty well in the new grad front. We've had quite a few of them over the last couple of years, and so far almost all of them have stuck around. It's nice to see that there's new nurses who are really interested in psych, and not just using it as a way-station to get their golden first year of experience before moving on to another specialty.
November 27, 2018
November 26, 2018
In which Meriwhen cries at work
I've only gone misty at work a few times in my career.
First time was as a new grad. The powers that be decided I should be in charge of the ICU that day. Well, I had never been in charge of the ICU--it wasn't even my home unit. Up until that point, I was primarily a detox nurse. And it was a day full of discharges, court hearings, and everything administrative. I can deal with psychotic patients until the cows come home, but administrative stuff and court hearings...yeah, not yet familiar territory. My other nurse (we were short, so there were only two of us) was also a float. She was also a LVN so what she could do to help me was limited in scope.
I did my best to make a go of it, but after an hour and a half, I was so overwhelmed, I had to call the DON for reinforcements. She was able to get the supervisor down there, as well as one of the regular ICU nurses to come in on his day off and help me out. God bless him. He helped me get through the shift and gave me a crash course in all the legal ins and outs. He remains a good friend to this day. We both have the same taste in firearms.
I managed to keep the water works in until after the shift, when I went by the DON's office. She invited me to stop by to see how I was. I got there, sat down, and promptly started bawling.
The second time was many years later, on the first Father's Day after my father died. I went to work four days after he passed and didn't cry. I didn't cry for a long time. But that first Father's Day...I was on the open unit, so fortunately I got to be alone in my misery. Patients slept all night and it was so slow that my partner was chatting with some other nurses. I sat in the corner with a COW (computer on wheels), quietly, with the tears streaming down my face. I think that was the first time I had cried since he died.
I haven't really cried for him since...I do get misty at times, especially on my birthday. But brief tears since my father would have never liked to see me get upset on my birthday, especially about him. And I've never really cried over him since...but I know he understands.
Third time was due to stress over my mother. I love my mother but she can drive me to tears. I don't remember exactly what it was that got me upset, but with my mother, it could be lots of things. And while my crying wasn't outright hysterics, it was enough to get people worried.
Which brings us to the fourth time, today.
I generally have a good relationship with my coworkers, especially the ones I work with the most often. You need to have it, it's part of surviving. But work has been very stressful as of late--unfortunately things have happened and I can't go into details. It's getting to a lot of us. At least, it's getting to me and a few who have confided in me. We're doing our best to support each other in this. Anyhow, one of my coworkers--normally a decent guy--has been acting kind of like a jerk lately. He said something to me and it actually hurt. I asked for help with something and I got this instead. I'm not entirely sure if it was meant as a joke--I'm kind of thinking/hoping that it was, but it still hurt nonetheless.
I know, Meriwhen, sensitive? Not usually. But like I said, things have been stressful lately. So the remark got to me more than I'd like to have. I didn't quite know what to say, or even if I wanted to say anything about it, so I have just been keeping my distance from said coworker. Not really talking to him other than what I had to say while I thought it over.
I did end up talking about it with another coworker--the topic just kind of came up. He was also there and heard the remark, and agreed that it was rather insensitive, especially since I never ask for help (and yes, I'm working on improving that) and didn't get why the coworker said it, even if it was supposed to be a joke. He's also been a bit frustrated with this first coworker as of late. We both concluded that he (first coworker) probably hasn't even noticed that he upset me and so it might be pointless to even bring it up, just to let it pass.
So while an apology might be nice, my second coworker has a point. As far as remarks go, yes, it hurt...it wasn't the worst thing I've ever had anything ever said to me. Still, it was nice to know that perhaps it just wasn't me being overly sensitive.
But now, the first coworker for some reason is now not really talking to me. We have somehow entered a cold war...maybe. Or maybe not. I haven't asked him.
It hasn't impaired our working together, but it was tense. And got tenser as the night wore on.
Finally, towards, the end of the shift, I couldn't take the tension anymore and started crying in front of three psychotic patients. Two of them--long-term patients--were very concerned about me. The third said he would get us an apartment to live in together and buy me a sports car.
Uh, no, thank you.
I excused myself and left the floor. I'm a firm believer in presenting a united front when it comes to patients, and any issues among staff is not patient business.
A third coworker (I have to number them now so you're not confused) found me and consoled me. I didn't really say why I was upset. I'm not sure if anyone else knew I was upset because I did have the waterworks under decent control. Others including the first coworker were going past us in the nurses' station, so maybe they noticed. Or possibly not. No one else said anything, and I was too upset to care who saw at this point.
I pretty much ran out of Dodge after that.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, was the fourth time I ever cried at work. I'm sure they'll be a fifth, but hopefully not for a long time.
As far as the first coworker...I don't know what to do about that situation. It's inevitable that we will be working together again. He really is a good guy and I genuinely enjoy working with him. I'd like to think that his remark was a poor joke made at a horrible time, and which I for some reason am having a hard time getting over. Things are stressful at work for all of us, and the holidays are just going to make it worse. And December is a horrible enough month for me as it is. Maybe it may just be better for me to let it go and try to get out relationship back to normal. If he asks about it, I'll tell him how I felt. Though I don't think he will. I think it's just like my second coworker and I think: he probably hasn't noticed anything was/is wrong.
Though I'll be honest: part of me never wants to ask him for help with anything again if I can help it, in case it wasn't a joke.
First time was as a new grad. The powers that be decided I should be in charge of the ICU that day. Well, I had never been in charge of the ICU--it wasn't even my home unit. Up until that point, I was primarily a detox nurse. And it was a day full of discharges, court hearings, and everything administrative. I can deal with psychotic patients until the cows come home, but administrative stuff and court hearings...yeah, not yet familiar territory. My other nurse (we were short, so there were only two of us) was also a float. She was also a LVN so what she could do to help me was limited in scope.
I did my best to make a go of it, but after an hour and a half, I was so overwhelmed, I had to call the DON for reinforcements. She was able to get the supervisor down there, as well as one of the regular ICU nurses to come in on his day off and help me out. God bless him. He helped me get through the shift and gave me a crash course in all the legal ins and outs. He remains a good friend to this day. We both have the same taste in firearms.
I managed to keep the water works in until after the shift, when I went by the DON's office. She invited me to stop by to see how I was. I got there, sat down, and promptly started bawling.
The second time was many years later, on the first Father's Day after my father died. I went to work four days after he passed and didn't cry. I didn't cry for a long time. But that first Father's Day...I was on the open unit, so fortunately I got to be alone in my misery. Patients slept all night and it was so slow that my partner was chatting with some other nurses. I sat in the corner with a COW (computer on wheels), quietly, with the tears streaming down my face. I think that was the first time I had cried since he died.
I haven't really cried for him since...I do get misty at times, especially on my birthday. But brief tears since my father would have never liked to see me get upset on my birthday, especially about him. And I've never really cried over him since...but I know he understands.
Third time was due to stress over my mother. I love my mother but she can drive me to tears. I don't remember exactly what it was that got me upset, but with my mother, it could be lots of things. And while my crying wasn't outright hysterics, it was enough to get people worried.
Which brings us to the fourth time, today.
I generally have a good relationship with my coworkers, especially the ones I work with the most often. You need to have it, it's part of surviving. But work has been very stressful as of late--unfortunately things have happened and I can't go into details. It's getting to a lot of us. At least, it's getting to me and a few who have confided in me. We're doing our best to support each other in this. Anyhow, one of my coworkers--normally a decent guy--has been acting kind of like a jerk lately. He said something to me and it actually hurt. I asked for help with something and I got this instead. I'm not entirely sure if it was meant as a joke--I'm kind of thinking/hoping that it was, but it still hurt nonetheless.
I know, Meriwhen, sensitive? Not usually. But like I said, things have been stressful lately. So the remark got to me more than I'd like to have. I didn't quite know what to say, or even if I wanted to say anything about it, so I have just been keeping my distance from said coworker. Not really talking to him other than what I had to say while I thought it over.
I did end up talking about it with another coworker--the topic just kind of came up. He was also there and heard the remark, and agreed that it was rather insensitive, especially since I never ask for help (and yes, I'm working on improving that) and didn't get why the coworker said it, even if it was supposed to be a joke. He's also been a bit frustrated with this first coworker as of late. We both concluded that he (first coworker) probably hasn't even noticed that he upset me and so it might be pointless to even bring it up, just to let it pass.
So while an apology might be nice, my second coworker has a point. As far as remarks go, yes, it hurt...it wasn't the worst thing I've ever had anything ever said to me. Still, it was nice to know that perhaps it just wasn't me being overly sensitive.
But now, the first coworker for some reason is now not really talking to me. We have somehow entered a cold war...maybe. Or maybe not. I haven't asked him.
It hasn't impaired our working together, but it was tense. And got tenser as the night wore on.
Finally, towards, the end of the shift, I couldn't take the tension anymore and started crying in front of three psychotic patients. Two of them--long-term patients--were very concerned about me. The third said he would get us an apartment to live in together and buy me a sports car.
Uh, no, thank you.
I excused myself and left the floor. I'm a firm believer in presenting a united front when it comes to patients, and any issues among staff is not patient business.
A third coworker (I have to number them now so you're not confused) found me and consoled me. I didn't really say why I was upset. I'm not sure if anyone else knew I was upset because I did have the waterworks under decent control. Others including the first coworker were going past us in the nurses' station, so maybe they noticed. Or possibly not. No one else said anything, and I was too upset to care who saw at this point.
I pretty much ran out of Dodge after that.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, was the fourth time I ever cried at work. I'm sure they'll be a fifth, but hopefully not for a long time.
As far as the first coworker...I don't know what to do about that situation. It's inevitable that we will be working together again. He really is a good guy and I genuinely enjoy working with him. I'd like to think that his remark was a poor joke made at a horrible time, and which I for some reason am having a hard time getting over. Things are stressful at work for all of us, and the holidays are just going to make it worse. And December is a horrible enough month for me as it is. Maybe it may just be better for me to let it go and try to get out relationship back to normal. If he asks about it, I'll tell him how I felt. Though I don't think he will. I think it's just like my second coworker and I think: he probably hasn't noticed anything was/is wrong.
Though I'll be honest: part of me never wants to ask him for help with anything again if I can help it, in case it wasn't a joke.
November 14, 2018
The half-marathon went well. No PR, but I wasn't last either. It was my first time on the course and I enjoyed it so much that I'm signing up for next year's race as soon as they post it.
The registry (a.k.a. Job #2) called to see if I was working and whether I was interested in picking up work with them again. It's nice to know I'm still thought of well by them...but between work and graduate school, I don't really have the time to spare for a registry position. So I'm going to decline but ask them to keep in touch. It never hurts to have contacts wherever you can.
The registry (a.k.a. Job #2) called to see if I was working and whether I was interested in picking up work with them again. It's nice to know I'm still thought of well by them...but between work and graduate school, I don't really have the time to spare for a registry position. So I'm going to decline but ask them to keep in touch. It never hurts to have contacts wherever you can.
November 10, 2018
A few of my coworkers asked me if I was going to go for that administrative position. I didn't directly answer (at the time, it was not yet posted), but stated that it would be nice to have someone consistently there for those of us on nights and that if it had to be me to deliver that consistency, then so be it. It was nice to hear that I still have the vote of confidence from some of my peers if I had decided to pursue it. But as I mentioned, it's already off the table of consideration due to its hours.
In other news...the other half's father passed away this spring. I don't thing I had mentioned it here because it blindsided us. He went into hospital for a lung issue that turned into a cardiac issue that turned into a ICU stay that turned into the end. The reason we were blindsided was that he and other half's mom didn't want us to know how bad things really were. So whenever we spoke to his mom, she made it sound like things were better than they actually were. Then one day his mom calls and says, "oh, your dad passed away." No preamble. Just boom. Said it as though she was discussing the day's random activities.
Side note: she's also a psychiatric nurse, which is probably why she had such great emotional control when talking to us.
In a way, I can't fault her. The other half has never been good with anything medical, so much so that even I no longer disclose any of my own medical issues to him unless I'm certain I have to. He'd spazz endlessly with worry over every single little thing. So the family tells him only when he really needs to know.
But at the same time, if his mom knew that his dad was likely not going to make it, she should have been honest about that part so other half would have had a chance to say goodbye to him. At least I had that chance with my dad. Other half never got that chance. Neither did I.
I do miss my other half dad. He was a good guy and you could always count on him for a bad pun. And he considered me the daughter he never had.
Tomorrow is his birthday, which happens to be the same day as the half-marathon I amrunning walking. I was going to wear my one of my usual running shirts (turtles or sorority runners) but found one that he'd love. It has this printed on it:
Which is totally something my other dad would say to me as I'm slogging along.
In other news...the other half's father passed away this spring. I don't thing I had mentioned it here because it blindsided us. He went into hospital for a lung issue that turned into a cardiac issue that turned into a ICU stay that turned into the end. The reason we were blindsided was that he and other half's mom didn't want us to know how bad things really were. So whenever we spoke to his mom, she made it sound like things were better than they actually were. Then one day his mom calls and says, "oh, your dad passed away." No preamble. Just boom. Said it as though she was discussing the day's random activities.
Side note: she's also a psychiatric nurse, which is probably why she had such great emotional control when talking to us.
In a way, I can't fault her. The other half has never been good with anything medical, so much so that even I no longer disclose any of my own medical issues to him unless I'm certain I have to. He'd spazz endlessly with worry over every single little thing. So the family tells him only when he really needs to know.
But at the same time, if his mom knew that his dad was likely not going to make it, she should have been honest about that part so other half would have had a chance to say goodbye to him. At least I had that chance with my dad. Other half never got that chance. Neither did I.
I do miss my other half dad. He was a good guy and you could always count on him for a bad pun. And he considered me the daughter he never had.
Tomorrow is his birthday, which happens to be the same day as the half-marathon I am
Which is totally something my other dad would say to me as I'm slogging along.
November 8, 2018
I have a half-marathon this Sunday. I already lost the requisite toenail and the race hasn't even started!
Seriously...I must have somehow injured my toe. When I went to apply varnish (I always keep the toes manicured. I can't keep my fingernails from breaking to save my life), toe #2 on the right decided that it didn't need the toenail anymore. And this injury must have occurred quite a while ago, because the next toenail was already halfway grown out. How I didn't notice this is beyond me.
Seriously...I must have somehow injured my toe. When I went to apply varnish (I always keep the toes manicured. I can't keep my fingernails from breaking to save my life), toe #2 on the right decided that it didn't need the toenail anymore. And this injury must have occurred quite a while ago, because the next toenail was already halfway grown out. How I didn't notice this is beyond me.
November 7, 2018
Administrative moot point
They did post that administrative position...for evenings. I have no intention of leaving nights. Therefore, I shan't be applying.
It shall be interesting to see if we'll have an internal candidate or if someone will come from the outside.
So all that musing I did the other day was a moot point...well, if I think about it, it really wasn't a moot point. It made me think about whether I really did want to cross over into the realm of administration (answer: still not 100% sure I do). It also gave me some food for thought for the future, especially when I graduate with my MSN and decide what my next steps in life will be...both the immediate steps and those in the long game. I've been thinking in terms of a ten-year plan as of late. I'll have my MSN in two years, and I'm starting to formulate a picture of where I want to be eight years after that. You'll have to forgive me if I choose to keep a lot of these cards close to my vest for now. There's going to be a lot of hands played in this card game anyway.
I will still send my resume and cover letter template to the WGU career center to get them cleaned up and at the ready. While I love what I do and where I work and don't have any intention of leaving any time soon, it's always a good idea to have a resume and basic cover at the ready should the perfect career opportunity ever cross my path.
It shall be interesting to see if we'll have an internal candidate or if someone will come from the outside.
So all that musing I did the other day was a moot point...well, if I think about it, it really wasn't a moot point. It made me think about whether I really did want to cross over into the realm of administration (answer: still not 100% sure I do). It also gave me some food for thought for the future, especially when I graduate with my MSN and decide what my next steps in life will be...both the immediate steps and those in the long game. I've been thinking in terms of a ten-year plan as of late. I'll have my MSN in two years, and I'm starting to formulate a picture of where I want to be eight years after that. You'll have to forgive me if I choose to keep a lot of these cards close to my vest for now. There's going to be a lot of hands played in this card game anyway.
I will still send my resume and cover letter template to the WGU career center to get them cleaned up and at the ready. While I love what I do and where I work and don't have any intention of leaving any time soon, it's always a good idea to have a resume and basic cover at the ready should the perfect career opportunity ever cross my path.
November 5, 2018
Administrative randomness
I finished Nursing Informatics. It was like pulling teeth, but I did it. I'm now on the final course of the term: Nursing Leadership. My term ends December 31, but I'm planning to have this course wrapped up by December 10 so I can enjoy the holidays without the spectre of a performance assessment looming over me.
After Informatics, Leadership is a refreshing change of pace. It's also arriving at an interesting time.
There's been some managerial turnover here. Nothing horrible: people moving on to bigger and better things. There is a possibility of an administrative position opening up, not immediately, but probably within a few weeks or so. It would be the same position that I had considered applying for in the past but declined.
This time around, I think I would seriously consider applying for it. Well, first of all, it would have to be a NOC position. If it's not NOC, it's not even in the realm of possibility. And in all honesty, the odds are it won't be a NOC position. But there's a chance it could be, and given that I happen to be taking Nursing Leadership, let me entertain such chance.
I've been weighing the pros and cons of going to administration.
Pro: consistency. We can't seem to keep a consistent admin around on nights and we are pretty much left to fend for ourselves. We do have an advanced nurse who we pretty much consider our unofficial leader--so much so that if she had decided to apply for said position, I'd immediately withdraw and throw my support behind her. We were promised some occasional visits from management during the night and they lasted...for a while. Then they disappeared. I don't know if they didn't think we'd notice...I did and actually mentioned it to someone.
So yeah, having someone from admin consistently around would be nice. And if it's got to be me to get that consistency, fine.
Pro: career advancement. It's more solid administrative/management experience.
Con: pay cut, a drastic one at that. Like $10-20/hr. Being the main breadwinner at home, finances are very important in the equation. I'm not out to make bank, but I do need to make enough to keep the status quo.
Con: schedule change. I like my current schedule. Not only will I lose it, I'll have to add on an extra day.
Pro: support of my coworkers. Most of them thought I should have applied the first time around...a few thought I had. So at least they're not opposed to seeing me in this position.
Con: relationship shift. It's going to go from me and coworkers to me supervising coworkers. The dynamic will change...it has to change by nature. I have good relationships with my coworkers--as far as I know, none want to kill me--but would those relationships survive the change?
Con: less time on the floor. More time as charge nurse. I like the floor. I like direct patient care.
Pro: opportunity for personal and professional growth as I go out of my comfort zone.
Con: having to interview. Fear of being rejected and not getting the job.
I'm sure I'll think of more.
Anyhow, it's not as simple as counting the number of each, seeing which side wins and then deciding based on that. There's a lot more depth to the decision than that.
Of course, this position might not get posted at all, or not be posted for nights, and then it's all a moot point.
I've decided to keep my own counsel on this and not mention it to anyone at work until necessary. I may need to ask someone to be a reference. I will definitely take advantage of WGU's career center to get the resume and cover letter polished up.
After Informatics, Leadership is a refreshing change of pace. It's also arriving at an interesting time.
There's been some managerial turnover here. Nothing horrible: people moving on to bigger and better things. There is a possibility of an administrative position opening up, not immediately, but probably within a few weeks or so. It would be the same position that I had considered applying for in the past but declined.
This time around, I think I would seriously consider applying for it. Well, first of all, it would have to be a NOC position. If it's not NOC, it's not even in the realm of possibility. And in all honesty, the odds are it won't be a NOC position. But there's a chance it could be, and given that I happen to be taking Nursing Leadership, let me entertain such chance.
I've been weighing the pros and cons of going to administration.
Pro: consistency. We can't seem to keep a consistent admin around on nights and we are pretty much left to fend for ourselves. We do have an advanced nurse who we pretty much consider our unofficial leader--so much so that if she had decided to apply for said position, I'd immediately withdraw and throw my support behind her. We were promised some occasional visits from management during the night and they lasted...for a while. Then they disappeared. I don't know if they didn't think we'd notice...I did and actually mentioned it to someone.
So yeah, having someone from admin consistently around would be nice. And if it's got to be me to get that consistency, fine.
Pro: career advancement. It's more solid administrative/management experience.
Con: pay cut, a drastic one at that. Like $10-20/hr. Being the main breadwinner at home, finances are very important in the equation. I'm not out to make bank, but I do need to make enough to keep the status quo.
Con: schedule change. I like my current schedule. Not only will I lose it, I'll have to add on an extra day.
Pro: support of my coworkers. Most of them thought I should have applied the first time around...a few thought I had. So at least they're not opposed to seeing me in this position.
Con: relationship shift. It's going to go from me and coworkers to me supervising coworkers. The dynamic will change...it has to change by nature. I have good relationships with my coworkers--as far as I know, none want to kill me--but would those relationships survive the change?
Con: less time on the floor. More time as charge nurse. I like the floor. I like direct patient care.
Pro: opportunity for personal and professional growth as I go out of my comfort zone.
Con: having to interview. Fear of being rejected and not getting the job.
I'm sure I'll think of more.
Anyhow, it's not as simple as counting the number of each, seeing which side wins and then deciding based on that. There's a lot more depth to the decision than that.
Of course, this position might not get posted at all, or not be posted for nights, and then it's all a moot point.
I've decided to keep my own counsel on this and not mention it to anyone at work until necessary. I may need to ask someone to be a reference. I will definitely take advantage of WGU's career center to get the resume and cover letter polished up.
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